cool, I'm glad this was useful. on the grey 5 wire harness there is a small "door" that opens to release each wire individually when you slide a precision flathead inside each wire port. I struggled with getting the wires out myself until I opened the "door' of the harness.

as far as replacing the fogs themselves, HandA has them for $95. I've read a lot of horror stories about ebay fogs, so I would stay with OEM lights. just my opinion though. http://www.handa-accessories.com/civicsi.html